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Somewhere inside, you’ve always known — love was never meant to hurt like this.

 

You are not too broken for the love that’s waiting for you.

You were never the problem. 

You simply haven't had the safety you need to show up as your real, whole self.


Until now, your relationships have been shaped by the survival parts of you — the parts that had to protect, guard, and brace for hurt.
But those parts aren't the full story of who you are.

This journey is about gently uncovering how trauma shaped you — and giving you the understanding, tools, and support you need to finally feel safe enough to lead with your true, loving self.


Love after complex trauma is possible.
And it starts here.

If love has felt hard, it's not because you're broken —

it's because you've been surviving.

 

Maybe you’ve found yourself stuck in the same painful patterns, even when you desperately wanted things to be different.
Maybe you feel anxious, disconnected, or like you have to shrink parts of yourself just to keep the peace.
Maybe you wonder if deep, lasting love is even possible for someone like you.

The truth is, you’ve been doing the best you could with the tools you had — surviving, protecting, coping.
You haven't failed.
You haven’t been too much, too sensitive, too complicated, or too broken.
You simply haven’t had the chance to feel truly safe — safe enough for your genuine, loving self to take the lead.

That can change.
You deserve relationships where you feel seen, cherished, and safe to be fully you.
And it’s not too late to create them.

So grab my hand, and let's do this healing work together.

Even if your trauma wasn’t loud, it left an imprint.

And now your body is simply trying to protect you the best way it knows how.

 

If you grew up walking on eggshells… always managing someone else’s moods… never really feeling seen or safe—
you might wonder if it really counts as trauma.

Maybe no one hit you. Maybe your home looked “normal” from the outside.
But inside? You felt alone. Confused. Like love was something you had to earn.

That’s trauma too.

And it makes so much sense that today, relationships feel overwhelming. That your nervous system still reacts like it did back then. That you're craving love—but don’t totally trust it.

You’re not broken.
No one ever taught you what safe love feels like—or how to recognize it in your body.

That’s what Love After Complex Trauma is here for:

To help you make sense of your patterns.
To give you the language and tools you never got.
 

And to gently show you that healing is possible—without shame, pressure, or needing to “fix” yourself.

If you're ready to unlearn old survival skills and reclaim the real you beneath your trauma, you're in the right place.

 

Through Love After Complex Trauma, you will dive deep into a trauma-informed understanding of the way you show up in your relationships and receive the tools you need to actually heal. Through our one-on-one coaching intensives, you will integrate what you learn in a deeply personal way.

So let's fill your toolbox AND walk together so that we can tend to your unique story.

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Let's get to the root of it all together in...

Love After Complex Trauma

A 3-month program to help you stop repeating the past in your relationships—so you can finally feel safe, seen, and loved as you are.

 

You’ll learn how to...

🌿 Understand how trauma shaped the way you show up in relationships — and how to gently shift old survival patterns.

🌿 Recognize the difference between surviving in love and truly thriving in connection.

🌿 Build the inner safety you need to let your true, loving self come forward — not just the protective parts.

🌿 Identify and heal the root wounds that keep pulling you into the same painful patterns.

🌿 Create relationships built on mutual safety, emotional intimacy, and real understanding.

🌿 Move from self-blame and confusion to deep self-compassion and clarity.

🌿 Feel empowered with practical tools to navigate triggers, communicate your needs, and stay grounded in your worth.

🌿 Open your heart again — this time with the skills, self-awareness, and confidence you’ve always deserved.

Because real change happens when we heal the root, not just the symptoms.

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Hi, I'm Christie.

And I'm no stranger to childhood trauma.

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As a fellow survivor and relational trauma therapist, I know firsthand the struggles of navigating relationships while trudging through the muck of my trauma. It bulldozed through my life and left a trail of wreckage that threatened to end my marriage.

I am here to tell you that I have seen the power of transforming our trauma into something that nourishes our relationships, and I am here to help you do just that.

  • Internal Family Systems Trained
  • Gottman Method Trained
  • Somatic Therapy for Complex Trauma Trained
  • Prepare/Enrich Certified
  • American Counseling Association
  • CACREP accredited M.A. Clinical Mental Health Counseling

You will receive...

  • 20+ Short, easy-to-digest video lessons 
  • 3 Self-exploration workbooks to help you integrate the healing into your life
  • Access to a private community of others on this healing journey
  • Lifetime access
  • *Optional: 3 90-min coaching sessions with Christie

 

This isn’t just another online course–it's a guided healing experience.

One that meets you with compassion, gives you the tools you've been missing, and helps you rewrite the way you show up in love and connection.

You won’t just be learning information — you’ll be experiencing transformation.
You’ll be held as you do the real work of healing at the root, building the inner safety your relationships have always needed.

Because you’re not just here to survive love anymore — you’re here to thrive in it.

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This isn't about fixing you.

 

It’s about understanding you—and giving yourself the support you never had, but always needed.

You didn’t choose your survival patterns.
But you can choose something different now.

You can learn how to feel at home in your own skin.
You can build love that feels calm, steady, and mutual.
You can stop wondering what’s “wrong” with you—and start feeling like you again.

I'm Ready to Heal

Don't just take our word for it.

Hear from others who have walked this path.

Christie teaches this course with such passion and sincerity. I found so much comfort in the tone of her voice, and the fact that she was sharing from her past experiences. For me putting a name to the different traumatic experiences I've endured and the way these experiences shaped my life helped me understand myself...If you're aching inside and you feel misunderstood in your relationships I would recommend this course.

-T. S.

I’m grateful that I was able to find Christie and her course. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to love. I felt that her material helped me heal the brokenness and trauma in the way of finding happiness in my marriage, and the true love I was seeking. As I learned from the material, I gained a deeper understanding of the why behind my feelings and responses. It helped me overcome some of that fear I was struggling with.

 

Christie is a compassionate, kind, respectful and knowledgeable coach. She provided the safe space I needed to work through my challenges and gave me excellent tools to learn from. I would highly recommend working with her and taking her course. Especially if you’re seeking a deeper connection within your marriage.

 

-M.K.

The Love After Complex Trauma course has been a wonderful experience for me...very insightful, eye opening, and right on time!

-K.A.

Topics covered:

MODULE 1: Understanding Your Roots

✔️ The survival skills that developed from your trauma, but sabotage your relationship

✔️ Understand your trauma response and how it shows up in your relationship

✔️ Understand the Internal Family Systems framework (IFS) and identify and respond to the various parts of you that are interfering in your relationship

✔️ Get clear on your relational needs

✔️ Understanding your inherited boundary system

MODULE 2: Building Safety

✔️ Step-by-step guidance for developing boundaries

✔️ How to identify safe people who can love you well

✔️ Develop tools for navigating trauma when it is triggered in your relationship

✔️ Learn to connect with more vulnerable emotions within relationship rather than reactive, surface emotions

✔️ Skills for co-regulating with your partner

✔️ How to understand and relate with your partner's parts (using the IFS framework) in order to foster safety in the relationship

MODULE 3: Thriving in Your Relationships

✔️ How to release codependency and relate in a way that cultivates healthy connection

✔️ How to turn toward each other amidst a trigger and develop deeper connection

✔️ How to effectively repair in your relationship

✔️ How to transform you survival skills into gifts that promote connection and thriving 

Here's your invitation.

To step off the exhausting cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, and walking on eggshells — and into a deeper, wiser knowing that steadies you.

To release the burdens that were never yours to carry, and finally show up in your relationships as your grounded, authentic self.

To give yourself the chance to experience real, connecting love — the kind you’ve always longed for but never felt fully safe enough to receive.

You are not too broken for love.
You were made for it.

 

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